As I have said in the past my journey into Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids has been a little revolutionary to me. It is changing the way I think about TV and STUFF. How I need to get rid of all the STUFF in my life. What am I calling STUFF? STUFF is the things that I do not love or need in my life but have held on to because maybe one day I might need it or it was given to my child so I don’t have a right to get rid of it. I use to be able to fit every worldly possession that I cared for into 2 bags and move from one country to another. When we moved into this 1500sq.ft. home we had moved from a one bedroom apartment and the house was so empty. We had 2 empty bedrooms and our bedroom was half empty. The living room was half empty and everything echoed. 3 kids later and our, what we thought, large house is now cramped. Not enough room for all of our STUFF. In reality this house is not too small for our family. It is just too small for our STUFF.
I was overwhelmed to say the least and those of you that have followed my blog for a while know that I really wanted to do something about it but honestly, I just didn’t know how, or where, to start and my kids and husband were starting to show signs of being overwhelmed as well. I knew I wanted to take that first step but how? I found Laura’s Hectic to Harmonious Home Cleanse and it gave me the jump start I needed. Helped me focus in on what mattered and what didn’t matter. The first culling of toys happened and I saw how it changed the way my children played and how less overwhelmed I was with their vast amount of toys. It was a lot easier to pick up and not as big of a deal. Laura kept referring to the Simplicity Parenting book. After the cleans was over I knew I needed to learn more about this book and its teachings.
I contacted the Simplicity Parenting group and got to join the current class even though it had already started. Thank you Dr. Kim. I had to play catch up on several weeks of material but each time he lead us through a meditation that really helps put things into perspective. So far we have talked about:
- Gift-Quirk-Disorder Spectrum
How to move your child’s quirks towards their gifts and away from potential behavioral and discipline problems.
- Soul Fever
How to cool the “soul fever” many children and families experience.(This is when your child is just acting off and you know they just aren’t feeling well mentally.)
- Decluttering the Environment
Gain support to simplify books, clothes, toys, lighting, noise etc.
- Strengthen Rhythm & Predictability
Experience the powerful and soothing effects on the whole family when daily safety valves of rhythm are strengthened and made more predictable. (I realize that this is something I have a hard time with with each birth. Trying to find the new right rhythm to the now different family)
- Prioritizing Schedules
Receive support to dial back busyness and over scheduling. Rediscover the gift of boredom and the gift of anticipation.(I‘m not one to over schedule if I can get away from it but this has gotten me to feel better about being a homebody)
Filtering Out the Adult World Taking a sensible and objective look at the effects of screen media and designing your own plan around what you feel is healthy. (This one is a problem in our home. We watch way too much TV and it is just too easy to use when I need time to nurse the baby or bath the baby or take a shower myself)
This webinar has helped me box up some more toys and there are even more to be boxed up to be put into the toy library to be rotated monthly. Sundays have become no screen days and I try to limit screens even more than before especially after hearing the research that was done with brain imaging on kids that watched too much TV.
How do you keep up with clutter?